Forgiving toward Forgetting

People all have their own history and misery. Each person also undeniably has their black and white, plus and minus. I've met hundred kinds of person that warm-hearted and cold-hearted. They're all different with various character which in my whole life trip I will patiently try to understand and match them. But here I am finally step myself to the climax point of being understood inquiry. I ask myself that how could I stand still without God's presence in my life? I will have no patient, no love, no kindness. But I am so grateful even all the heartache may come over, I get the strength to keep loving them. 

Matthew 18 : 21-22

Matthew 6 : 14-15 

Have you ever been trapped to the hard times?
Sick from all of the hurts?
Maybe by different person, or perhaps the same person?
Like over, over and over again?
Have you ever tried to forgive very hard?
But all you get is denial?
Scars that won't easily disappear?

I would say, I have.

"I don't understand how you can smile all day long but cry yourself to sleep at night.

How pictures never change but the people in them do.

How your best friend can become your worst enemy,

or how strange it is when your worst enemy turns into your best friend.

How forever turns into a few short months that you'd do almost anything to get back.

How you can let go of something you once said you couldn't live without.

How even though you know something is best for you, it just hurts the same.

How the people who once wanted to spend every second with you, think a few minutes of their time is too much to spare.

How people make promises despite knowing how common it is for promises to be broken.

How people can erase you from their lives just because it's easier than working things out."

One thing I know, it is normal to get mad, expressing what your heart really means. 

But don't make it too long (Ephesians 4 : 26).
"Control yourself. Don't use your anger to let others see you are powerful. Because at this point, you mean nothing." (LIH)

In my understanding, forgiving is a yes, yet forgetting is a no.

But I was totally wrong, I have seen lots of broken-hearted people define what "forgiveness" really means.

Forgiveness also has the most powerful finishing which is called : "forgetting".

(Philippians 3 : 13-14)
It is about forgetting how it hurts, stop thinking about the broken heart, and ready to look for the next days with a recovered-heart. Well I believe memory will stay, bad scenes may not be deleted. But yes, we can eliminate the bad feeling about it. 

For me, forgiving is not an obligation, it is a necessity.

Bring it to your prayer, let God help and guide you.
Forgiving and forgetting will provide you much much brighter future.
Don't be stuck at that bondage!

You just need to believe your heart, that in His hands, you're safe.

So, don't give up!

You and your God are inseparable! :)

God Bless and good luck, friends.